Comments on: Keeping it Real? Or Just Complaining?

By: Gunfighter

Gunfighter — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 10:58:36 +0000

Incredible.

By: Andie D.

Andie D. — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 14:05:23 +0000

I can only speak for myself.

Um YEAH it’s easier! I am my own boss, I set my own hours, make my own rules! I don’t have to ride the guilt seesaw: not enough time with the kids/not enough time at work.

By: Stacie

Stacie — Thu, 28 Jun 2007 01:33:35 +0000

For me, I miss work. I really miss work. It isn’t financially feasible to put 2 kids into day care so here I am. There are times when it is a really sweet gig, but whether it is “easy” or “easier” isn’t my problem. I miss the stimulation and rewards of an “adult” job. I am at home covered in spit up when my husband is off (as I type) being wined and dined by business associates, solving problems, getting kudos. I get a screaming, teething duo and not much else.

By: Suburban Turmoil

Suburban Turmoil — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 03:49:58 +0000

It was never a SAHM v. WOHM statement. Some women just used it as a jumping off point to compare the two. I’m comparing it more to the scale of human existence. Most of us SAHMs have it made. So why all the bitching? I’m including myself in that question.

By: ella

ella — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 13:34:53 +0000

I agree with karrie about the phases. I am in an ‘easy’ phase now and being an SAHM is good, but I’ve also found it pretty hard at times.

By: PunditMom

PunditMom — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 21:22:20 +0000

I think it depends on whether your child or children are particularly demanding and how well you can tune things out. Me, I’m not so good at that, so even with one, I have a hard time keeping a grip on my sanity some days.

By: Izzy

Izzy — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 05:37:09 +0000

I’m a SAHM as well as a WAHM and I don’t think it’s THAT hard. Yes, sometimes it’s monotonous and isolating but hard? Please. I can do something about those issues if I really want to. Going to work everyday and being under someone else’s thumb all day is, for me anyway, MUCH harder.

By: slackermommy

slackermommy — Thu, 21 Jun 2007 21:06:50 +0000

What I don’t get is why the argument? Some of the comments for that post really disappoint me. I wish women and mothers in particular did a better job of uplifting other women. Why does it matter who has the harder job; working mothers or SAHM’s? I don’t find being a SAHM of four necessarily hard but exhausting. I’m constantly on the go and that gets tiresome. Working as a nurse in a very busy ICU wasn’t hard either but very stressful. Now working 13 hours at a busy ICU and then coming home and being a mom would be hard for me. I feel fortunate that I don’t have to do that. I just wish SAHM’s got more respect and weren’t made to feel guilty about complaining. Why is it okay to complain about a job outside of the home but moms can’t complain about being a mom, especially if you are a SAHM? Doesn’t seem fair to me.

By: Paige

Paige — Thu, 21 Jun 2007 19:34:02 +0000

I think it depends on so many variables, the mother in question, the phase the child is going through, the level of support the mother gets, the amount of things the mother juggles, you name it. If you simplify, it can be a delight at times. If you don’t…well…you run into issues.

By: Chaos Control

Chaos Control — Thu, 21 Jun 2007 18:04:05 +0000

My personal experience is this. I’m not cut out to be a SAHM. I tried and I failed. It wasn’t pretty.

But I am an excellent mom. I’ve found the perfect balance for me and for my family. It’s what works best for us, and we’re all very happy as a result.